Gaslighting...Not As Good As Electric Lighting, I assure you.

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Today we are going to talk about gaslighting. For reference, gaslighting is a form of mental abuse where in which false information is presented with the intent of making a victim doubt his or her own memory, perception, or sanity. This could be something as simple as simple denial about committing a wrongdoing all the way to redirecting the blame to the accuser.

What does this mean in laymen's terms? Let's look at a quick example. Say you're a serial thief. You can't stop taking money from your friends and family. Whenever someone accuses you about your wrongdoings, you call them silly or crazy and claim that they must be imagining things. That person, in turn, doubts their ability to remember things, allowing you to more easily take money from him or her. Vicious cycle continues, and you walk away with a big fat paycheck.

So how does this all apply to a relationship? There could be a number of scenarios. Say you're a cheater and you continually step out on your partner. Your partner confronts you about it, and you tell your partner that he/she is imagining things. Now your partner will start doubting him/herself, and, if he/she isn't wise, will become vulnerable enough for you to continue to take advantage of him/her.
I can't number how many red flags this sends up. You're completely taking advantage of your partner, the person that should trust you the most and you, in turn, should trust the most. This also lends itself to emotional abuse, which in turn will dehumanize your partner and make him/her your punching rag for your terrible deeds.

Remember how a healthy relationship is built on trust? This is the anti-trust. Yeah, like the anti-Christ to the Christ, that kind of thing. If you're going to try and make your partner out to be a paranoid, unstable individual, you are submitting your partner to a form of abuse which makes you a very unsavory human being. Don't do it.

That's all I've got for today. Not much more needs to be said. Don't gaslight. It's abusive and wrong.
A note about the future-I will be starting another blog in concurrence with the start of my new novel. Keep an eye out for that!